Listen; Book; 'Real Love'

I dream in poetry.

When my spirit sings, the language is broken.

Simple words like ‘arise’, ‘courage’, ‘ripple’ resonate deeply.

So, when I read a book that speaks in sentences, without the poetry, my mind becomes distracted. But not with this book which speaks of love, lovingkindness and meditation.

Sometimes I think we can speak too deep.

Most language is shallow.

I crave deep words.

Words that haven’t been tarnished.

The word ‘love’ is so overused that the root meaning has become lost.

Love has so many layers. It’s rich in meaning and depth. That four little letters strung together no longer seem to cover the complexities that I mean when I utter ‘I love you’. In fact, I’d rather use a different language other than English. So, my lack of understanding and my awe of the subject is somehow represented by my lack of understanding of a foreign language. To say it in a language other than my mother tongue, is to express the depth of it more accurately.

Love is foreign territory. Speaking a foreign tongue resonates more when trying to express it.


This book by Sharon Salzberg was gifted to me and it explores love from all angles. And, what I really love most about it, is that it delves into the practices of lovingkindness so deeply. Teaching us how to view love from a different prospective.

Lovingkindness is a meditative practice of awareness and non-judgment that allows us the space to hold the emotions and explore them mindfully, rather than intellectually. And, if that makes no sense at all, then you need to read this book of magic. Each chapter is a spell for enriching the heart and setting our intention alight with purpose. Rather than stumbling along blindly when relating to others, the author offers us wisdom for creating meaningful interactions full of acceptance and love.

Many people’s stories are shared, and I enjoyed learning how a flippant comment or a lack of observation and understanding can take us so far off route. Many a relationship has been ended based on a misunderstanding.

It’s not an easy read. In that you’ll recognise patterns of destructive behaviour that have ruined previous relationships. I certainly did. But everything is covered in this beautiful piece.

There’s stories of sadness, regret, wisdom, tenderness, passion. And this book stirs the soul to live on a deeper level.

Being mindful of how we create and relate to interactions with others.

From loving oneself, to meditation, to loving another, to loss and letting go. It’s all looked at selflessly. The author shares her experiences too; and these parts were my favourites. She makes it abundantly clear that love and our approach to it, is a mindful, constant practice. That every interaction with another human being is an opportunity for growth and expansion.

Written easily in neat sections that are neither long nor short, we are presented with the subject, examples of others’ experiences and then some practice guidelines. Some of the practices involve journaling, others are more thoughtful and are based on reflection. Others still are guidelines for when we next encounter a similar circumstance.

We all crave being loved. But this book delves into what love really is; an expression of being seen, heard, felt, understood and held. It teaches us how to put love into motion. How to express it, recognise it, understand the patterns. It’s a beautiful book that supports Yoga and it explains how feelings are held, stored, suppressed and contorted.

I heartfully recommend it.

It’s so good, I’ve been gifted its predecessor ‘Lovingkindness’ and I am so looking forward to diving into it. Piece on that to follow.